Wow. eHarmony has surely mastered the art of playing on one's emotions. My account was about to expire and I thought I would share a portion of the email they sent to get me to renew my membership. As the words tugged at my heartstrings, I even think I heard violins playing in the background. They're good, I mean reeeeeally good, because as much as I felt like I needed a break, or to try a new site, I was curious as to what the future may hold with eHarmony.
You've reached an important milestone in your relationship with eHarmony. Your membership is going to expire in just a few days and your account is not set to renew automatically.
The journey to finding that special someone isn't always easy or fast, but we believe that ultimately, you will find that great relationship you've been looking for on eHarmony.
Our successful couples tell us that they once too had reservations and moments of doubt – but their long term commitment to the eHarmony process kept them involved until they met the one who was perfect for them. Time after time, we hear stories from successful couples who said "My membership expired, and I went back and renewed, and then I was matched up with my partner."
Don't wait until your membership expires. Finding that someone special is just too important.
Needless to say, It worked, I renewed my membership. If nothing else, it will provide me with exciting adventures to share with you all.
Call me naive, but I was under the impression that when you signed up for eHarmony you had to use your real name. Not necessarily your last name, but at least your first. I guess was wrong. Fast forward to the day I get matched with a gentleman from upstate new york who calls himself "Good Brother". Are you kidding me? I would say yes. Here are a few snippets from his profile.
The one thing Good Brother is most passionate about:
"enjoying good company..I'm a simple man...I'm not passiontate about much.."
Really? I think I can forgive that you spelled passionate wrong but dang why couldn't you end it with I'm a simple man as opposed to I'm not passionate about much?
The most important thing Good Brother is looking for in a person is:
"Honesty! Good communication I beleave is the foundion for a good relationship"
Spell check, need I say more. This is your profile page and first impressions mean something. Am I wrong for thinking that? I mean, I'm no English teacher or anything, I'm just sayin.
I would like to believe, eh em, or should I say beleavethat I am an open person, that I tend to give people a chance but this one unfortunately, had to go to the archives. Sorry everyone Good Brother has left the building.
I was toying with what to title this post. Other than what I named it, I thought of, The Mack: The Rise and Fall of a Sassy Girl or The world does not revolve around Sassy Girl (oh, but it does). Anyway, I've said it once, I'll say it again. PATIENCE IS THE KEY with online dating (or any type of dating for that matter). I tell ya, it's been interesting with regard to communicating with some of my matches. Someone will be super into me and smothering for a few days only to hear nothing from them the next few days. Some days I will get calls from four or five different guys and the next day, well, crickets. Needless to say, my ego is trippin big time. I'm really getting a lesson in something, I just haven't figure it out yet.
It was March of 2010, and I decided to try my chances on a different online website, blackpeoplemeet.com. Approximately 3 months after joining the site, I received a message from a tall, dark and handsome gentleman (really, he was!!!). Let’s call him Ren for privacy reasons (no, I don’t want to rag him out in public for all to know him – smile!)
Ren sent a message to me stating his interest in getting to know me better. His profile stated that he was 44 years of age, divorced, with 2 children, and that he hailed from the East Detroit, Michigan area. In his picture, Ren appeared to be a very handsome and distinguished looking gentleman. He also seemed to be very serious about getting into a relationship based on his profile. He looked like a great catch to me, so I decided to communicate with him over the site.
Ren quickly alluded to me that he was ready to settle down and get married if he felt he had found the right person. He wasted no time in asking me how I felt about marriage. I told him that I had no problem with it, and that it would be nice to find that right person as well.
Ren then asked if I would be willing to move into his home outside of the Detroit area. I told him that I would consider moving to his side of the country however, to give you some background on me: I live in the Washington, DC metropolitan area, so, based on the current lagging economy in our country right now, I bounced the question right back off of him as well (‘…would you be willing to live in the Washington, DC metro area’?).
Ren responded in so many words to me that he, ‘has a job in Detroit making $35,000 a year and was not about to leave it and risk unemployment’. (Wow! Really?)
I guess I can understand?!? However, I thought, since DC is, in relation to the rest of the country, more ‘recession proof’ right now, and, I would imagine with the field he is in, he can likely command in at least twice his current salary to start with a similar company here in the DC area - well, I guess his response took me aback (that the salary he makes currently was keeping him in East Michigan - which, btw, is also his hometown).
I learned that day that I had to let this potential relationship go, since we both were not that interested in budging from our respective home cities. Again, I don’t have a problem with his decision. This is something that each of us would have to consider in the long term.
I am still single, happy, and….well, maybe next time there will be a more agreeable ‘middle ground’. Thanks for listening to my online dating dilemma. :~)
First couple of weeks on eHarmony were a total bust until that one day I get an email from a very handsome man from Philadelphia named Kyle that say's "Call me boo boo." Boo Boo? Who says that? I laughed and told him that I was probably more like a ladybug than a boo boo and that he needed to call me. A few days later, I get a call from him and his voice was deep and nice, he had a certain charisma with him and in our 45 minute phone conversation, we managed to talk about everything from religion, school, work and life in general. That was enough to make me fall in love. As I hang up the phone with him, I could even hear the song by Lauryn Hill softly in my head.
The sweetest thing I've ever known
Was like the kiss on the collarbone
Soft caress of happiness
The way you walk, your style of dress
I wish I didn't get so weak
Ooo, baby, just to hear you speak
Makes me argue just to see
How much you're in love with me
As I'm walking on cloud nine, (haven't even met the man mind you) I immediately sent a text to a couple of girlfriends letting them know that I was in love, l.o.v.e, only for them to reply "here we go again." Yes, this one call was enough for me to know that I loved me some him. It was enough to turn me from a ladybug to a boo boo, LOL!
Anyway, out of all the guys I've been communicating with, this one can give me butterflies with a simple text message. We haven't been able to coordinate our schedules to meet yet since we're both busy and live a half of a gas tank away but I can't wait. Stay tuned... :)
When trying to think of a title of this post, I was a little stumped. Some titles I played around with: "How many chances is too many"; "Talk is Cheap"; "Texting is Turning Some Men into Social Retards"; or "Doug is a BUST!". Truth be told any one of those titles would fit but after you read this post you decide.
So as I stated in a previous post my online dating experience has yet to lead to an actual date but I have come close one of which is my experience with Doug. Ahhh where to begin...... well Doug sent me an email through match and it was pleasant and respectful. We exchanged personal email addresses and later exchanged numbers. After exchanging numbers Doug didn't hesitate to give a sista a call. Points for moving quickly. We spoke for about 15 minutes. He had to get off the phone because he was working and got called in on an installation. Not sure what Doug does for a living, we didn't talk long enough for me to get that question answered. And we never were able to continue our conversation but Doug sent me a text indicating that he was looking forward to getting to know me. Ahhhh sweet, right? A day or so later around lunch time I receive a text message from Doug asking how my day was going and oh.... I quote: "Do you miss me yet?". Yes I know what you're thinking, "Uhhhh REALLY?" I thought the same thing. I basically responded that I didn't miss him because I didn't know him and we only spoke 15 minutes! His response: "Well I am just letting you know that you can miss me if you want to". Now after speaking to some of my co-workers I chalked it up to well maybe he has been out of the game for awhile and he is a little socially retarded so I decided not to be too quick to cut Doug off. Well folks it didn't get better.
Incident 2: Doug and I discussed via text about meeting up for coffee over the weekend. We talked about meeting up Sunday early evening like 4pm. We text back and forth on Friday (Doug attempted to have a conversation via text message) but didn't text on Saturday. Sunday comes along and I sent him a text at 1pm inquirying if he still wanted to meet up-- no response. Monday goes by-- nothing; Tuesday comes and I get an apologetic text message that asks if I had deleted him out of my address book yet? The sympathy angle: interesting. I said no and he proceeds to tell me that on Sunday NIGHT he had to take his mom to the emergency room because she fell and was there all night. Now, I know what you are thinking "didn't you text him at 1pm" or maybe your thinking "while you are waiting in the emergency room why not send a response saying something has come up after all you spend most of your time just waiting in an emergency room". Now I have to be honest and say that I did wonder if the story was made up but needless to say I let it be. He stated his mother was doing okay and he reiterated that he VERY MUCH WANTED TO TALK TO ME. Okay whatever!
Incident 3: Doug sent me a text message asking what I was doing. It so happened I was eating dinner. Doug proceeded to request time later on that evening to talk. I suggested 8pm and he said that after he completed a task he would give me a call. UHHHH CRICKETS! No call.
Incident 4: Doug sent me a text message asking what if we could talk that evening. I had plans but stated I could talk at 9pm. We were all set or so I thought. 9pm came and went and no call!
Ironically when he would reach out afterwards, via text messag of course, he would never mention not calling. But he would end up texting the following: "Just wanted to know I was thinking about you"; "You crossed my mind today"; "I look forward to getting to know you"; "Hey"; "Good morning"; "How are you"; etc, etc. You get the drift. I should also like to add that after our initial 15 minute telephone conversation we have yet to actually TALK ON THE PHONE. Uhhhh REALLY? And it gets better! So for incident 5 and 6 stay tuned for the Doug Saga Part II. Hey maybe that's what I will call my post!
If you're anything like us, we're sure your online dating experience has been quite the journey. For us, its been rather comical some days, to down right "are they serious?" This blog is an attempt to make light of these situations while hopefully making you laugh (or cry for that matter). We're also excited to announce that we will have an "Ask the Expert" segment providing you with dating advice which we will keep light hearted, fun and most of all real.
PS: Like us, this blog is a work in progress.
The journey to finding that special someone isn't always easy or fast, but we believe that ultimately, you will find that great relationship you've been looking for on eHarmony. 
